#397: “When people fall out of love, I learned that…” – Jun Mark Patilan

"When people fall out of love, I learned that they kind of drift away, like an island being separated to another."Jun Mark Patilan (My Indelible Ink) Taken from a lovely prose written by Jun Mark Patilan on lost love. Read the full write-up here.

#396: Advice from the football fraternity

"It's the right way, baby. When I worked with [former RBNY GM] Ali Curtis, when we first came to Red Bull together, he coined a phrase, 'If you want something in life, you don’t wait for it, you go out and get it.' And that was the way we described our style of play. I call it …

#395: “Everyone is so intent on expressing their own opinion, or they’re so distracted by technology or by their own thoughts, that it’s making us isolated, misinformed and intolerant.” – Kate Murphy

How to be a good listener: my mission to learn the most important skill of all (The Guardian) A really good piece by Stephen Moss that sheds light on bad and good listening, how to be a good listener, and how good listening can make a positive impact on both the sharer and listener in …

#394: A different perspective of failure

For the longest time, I've been afraid that I might have missed out on my chance to fail big time. I've cultivated this belief from the success and comeback stories and testimonies that I've encountered over time. The belief that after experiencing a huge setback and reaching our lowest point, the only way we can …

#393:”What if I fall?” – e. h

There is freedom waiting for you, On the breezes of the sky, And you ask "What if I fall?" Oh but my darling, What if you fly? ~ e. h I remember coming across a quote that went something along the lines of, "Oh but what if you could?" Google helped me identify the quote …

#392: “it doesn’t matter if astrology is real; it matters if it’s useful.” – Julie Beck (senior editor, The Atlantic)

I was having dinner with some friends last weekend and one of them - who was quite into astrology - decided to guess each of our star signs. I became more skeptical of horoscopes after I learned about the Barnum effect during my fundamentals of social science research class a few years ago. The Barnum …

#391: Life advice from a footballer

“It’s probably going to take a little bit of pain – it’s probably going to take a lot of pain – but I believe that if we stick with the process we will look back on this period and think, ‘yes, we took that pain, but look where we are now because of those decisions’.” …

#390: “Easy choices, hard life; hard choices, easy life.” – Jerzy Gregorek

"The hard choices -- what we most fear doing, asking, saying -- are very often exactly what we need to do." Tim Ferriss (2017) And the hard choices may be exactly what I need to do.

#389: “If you’re incompetent, you can’t know you’re incompetent… the skills you need to produce the right answer are the very same skills you need to recognise the right answer.” – David Dunning

"Wisdom is knowing that while you might know a lot... there's also a lot you don't know. Wisdom is trying to find out what is right rather than trying to be right. Wisdom is realizing when you're wrong, and backing down graciously. Don't be afraid to be wrong. Don't be afraid to admit you don't have all the answers. Don't be afraid to …

#388: ““These feelings (Fomo and Fobo) are biologically part of who we are. I call it the biology of wanting the best.” – Patrick McGinnis

'So for those without pre-existing conditions, what exactly is everyone afraid of? What is the “fear” in Fobo? McGinnis says it is a “fear of letting go”. “In order to choose something you must let go of another thing and it’s the fear of having to mourn the road untaken. So we would rather not …