#343: ‘when you love someone but it goes to waste’ Part 2

‘Somehow, the limited joy of hearing “good job” from a person who doesn’t really love you is maddeningly more satisfying than the unconditional embrace of someone who truly does. “Sure,” I think, when my parents or my boyfriend surround and support me, “But they always do.” Only if I force myself can I really stop to think about what that implies. Their love is as present as oxygen, invisible and irreplaceable.’

Chelsea Fagan

Read the full article here: Never Convince Anyone That They Should Love You

#343: ‘when you love someone but it goes to waste’ Part 2

#207: What we should do for ourselves

From “What You Deserve” by Chelsea Fagan:

“You deserve to appreciate all of the wonderful qualities you bring to the table, instead of relentlessly harping on yourself for the categories in which you fall just a tiny bit short.”

“You deserve … to be able to say that, because you held the door open for an older man with too many bags on his arms, your afternoon was good. Though the profound effect these tiny moments of happiness can have on all of us are often lost in the shuffle of life and its myriad injustices, you deserve to look at them and see them for the victories of compassion and simplicity that they are.”

“You deserve to try, and give it your all, but be okay if you fail. You deserve not to spend so much of your life berating yourself for not having been ‘good enough,’ … to be able to do your best work and, at the end of the day, put your pen down and sleep well. “

“You deserve to know that moments of weakness do not make you fundamentally weak, only fundamentally human, and that sometimes we’re not going to be effusively happy, and that is okay. … learning to be happy just in a kind of stasis with yourself is a long process, and you should know that we are all working on it.”



From “How To Decipher Mixed Messages” by Brianna Wiest:

“listen to people, and respect their wishes. There are a few elements regarding why this is important, and it starts with the fact that just because someone doesn’t want you anymore does not make them an inherently bad person.”


#207: What we should do for ourselves